I have learned that being a father can bring great joy. I have 2 boys my oldest is 5 1/2. but according to him 5. my youngest is 18 months according to my oldest 1.
Kids are so precise there is no grey it is all black and white, I guess as we get older we understand the black and white is there but there can be gray scale in our life as well; but for a child it is all black and white.
I know we want to teach them right from wrong and how to make decisions on their own but do we teach them or do they teach us. Sometimes I wonder. They test us they try our patience in what we say. My oldest is now being defiant and trying my patience along with my wives. He will also say no after much argumentation and confrontation he gives in to us.
Tonight I told him enough is enough he is old enough to wash his face himself. He got mad and said NO. The biggest problem is as the school years winds down and many early mornings as of late he is exhausted. But according to him he is not.
I have learned that reasoning with a child is near impossible you need to make compromises and have them understand why.
I often wonder am I doing what is right by being firm and taking items away and threatening to not do something to make a point. We take his computer away or his tablet, he has a fit but is he learning by our actions. Or is it just a justification for us that we are wining the tiny battles or his he the one winning by gaining our attention since he sees us so little with us both working.
I have seen love in him and the desire to emulate both my wife and I in what we do, He loves drawing and creating with both of us he goes in to my wife's art studio to create he wants to be like her. He will draw with me and asks me why do I always draw castles or waterfalls. That is a question I wish I could answer. I know I like drawing them but he tells me I need to draw other things. I did in the past i guess it is just a stage I am going through.
Enough about me. Fatherhood has changed me that is for sure it teaches us to slow down and enjoy the little things in life.
Showing posts with label Life Ramblings. Show all posts
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Monday, June 8, 2015
Thursday, June 4, 2015
How the world has changed in 35 years
As I look back on my life it is changed a lot from the time 1 was 10 till now.
Computers in every house not even a pipe dream cell phones what were they. We had a rotary phone yes the one you dialed by spinning it in a circle. Call Display or Speed Dial not an option. In order to remember a phone number you needed to memorize it or you had in a phone book or paper Rolodex. The electronic ones didn't exist and the smartphone what was that. Now with Cell phones there is no need for a land line we have eliminated ours as have many other people. The phone instead of hanging on the wall now stores our life and connects us to the world and our friends.
It is at our sides all the time it is part of us.
My music collection consisted of Records heck tapes were just being conceived little alone the thought of having your music collection on an IPOD or MP3 player. There was not even a Sony Walkman. Now you have more music on your computer or in or IPOD or MP3 player than can you listen to in a lifetime.
The Computer was only a simple calculator I was around 10 when we got the VIC 20 yes a commodore I remember playing Frogger on it for ours and running simple games of a tape drive.
I often think back to this; my phone has 16GB internal memory and 64 GB memory card in it. The VIC 20 had a whopping 4K of internal ram and a memory expansion card not even a dream.
My phone has roughly the amount of 64 Billion times more storage than my first PC. I know it is not the exact amount but it puts it in to perspective.
We had a simple tube TV. A flat screen what was that cable with over 400 Channels heck we had an antenna that had a rotator for the antenna to get a whopping 10 channels on a good day. The TV's of Today are insane from what we had as children the colour quality is life like now with HDTV and even 3D. Heck we now have smart TV's with more computing power than my VIC 20.
We got a VCR when I was about 12 wow it was amazing we could record TV and rent Movies. Now we have DVD's and Move Collections galore on our PC's that we download from various sites such as ITunes. Then there is the VCR replacement the PVR with 1 TB and the option to add more storage I have a 2TB External drive plugged in to ours for a told of 3TB of storage. No need to erase the tape anymore. You can record a whole season and then have a marathon. You can even record 10 items at once. That wasn't even conceived of when I was a kid.
This is just a few things as there are many others that have changed and I am just wondering what my Mattis and Felix will have when they are my age. It just scares me or does it intrigue me.
Computers in every house not even a pipe dream cell phones what were they. We had a rotary phone yes the one you dialed by spinning it in a circle. Call Display or Speed Dial not an option. In order to remember a phone number you needed to memorize it or you had in a phone book or paper Rolodex. The electronic ones didn't exist and the smartphone what was that. Now with Cell phones there is no need for a land line we have eliminated ours as have many other people. The phone instead of hanging on the wall now stores our life and connects us to the world and our friends.
It is at our sides all the time it is part of us.
My music collection consisted of Records heck tapes were just being conceived little alone the thought of having your music collection on an IPOD or MP3 player. There was not even a Sony Walkman. Now you have more music on your computer or in or IPOD or MP3 player than can you listen to in a lifetime.
The Computer was only a simple calculator I was around 10 when we got the VIC 20 yes a commodore I remember playing Frogger on it for ours and running simple games of a tape drive.
I often think back to this; my phone has 16GB internal memory and 64 GB memory card in it. The VIC 20 had a whopping 4K of internal ram and a memory expansion card not even a dream.
My phone has roughly the amount of 64 Billion times more storage than my first PC. I know it is not the exact amount but it puts it in to perspective.
We had a simple tube TV. A flat screen what was that cable with over 400 Channels heck we had an antenna that had a rotator for the antenna to get a whopping 10 channels on a good day. The TV's of Today are insane from what we had as children the colour quality is life like now with HDTV and even 3D. Heck we now have smart TV's with more computing power than my VIC 20.
We got a VCR when I was about 12 wow it was amazing we could record TV and rent Movies. Now we have DVD's and Move Collections galore on our PC's that we download from various sites such as ITunes. Then there is the VCR replacement the PVR with 1 TB and the option to add more storage I have a 2TB External drive plugged in to ours for a told of 3TB of storage. No need to erase the tape anymore. You can record a whole season and then have a marathon. You can even record 10 items at once. That wasn't even conceived of when I was a kid.
This is just a few things as there are many others that have changed and I am just wondering what my Mattis and Felix will have when they are my age. It just scares me or does it intrigue me.
Thursday, April 2, 2015
Mattis Interpretation on how Babies are Made
Last night Mattis told me he now understands how Babies are made.
I was thinking oh my god.
He told me this after he asked why do I have a Penis and what it's purpose, when Girls don't, and then why girls don't.
I was thinking to my self how do I explain the Brids and the Bees to a 5 year old.
I told him that Mummies and Daddies make Babies together, when they are in Love He then turned to me and said I know the Baby was in Mummy
but mummy had to go to the Hospital so they could assemble Felix. I then went with Nana to see the Final version.
I was thinking oh my god.
He told me this after he asked why do I have a Penis and what it's purpose, when Girls don't, and then why girls don't.
I was thinking to my self how do I explain the Brids and the Bees to a 5 year old.
I told him that Mummies and Daddies make Babies together, when they are in Love He then turned to me and said I know the Baby was in Mummy
but mummy had to go to the Hospital so they could assemble Felix. I then went with Nana to see the Final version.
Monday, March 23, 2015
The Mind of a 5 yr Old ... I can Bring Granpda Duncan back from heaven
I wonder why Mattis says what he does what goes through the mind of a 5 yr old is amazing.
He asks the weirdest question but yet they are inquisitive at the same time. He wants to know if he can to heaven to meet Grandpa Duncan. He says to me daddy I can find him Heaven it is a small place in our house, I know what he looks like from the picture you have in the living room.
He then says I can help him find his way home so he can be with us. I see him in my dreams he will find us all I have to do this he tells me. I can tell him where we live so he can find us. He then says Peter Pan found his way home from Never-land so Grandpa can from heaven
I wish I could make him understand I wish it was that simple since it bothers me that my dad never got to meet my amazing wife or my 2 Kids. He never got to meet any of his Grand kids. I know he us up there and around us proud of what we have become proud of his grand kids. Proud of both my sister and I and what we have accomplished in life. I wish I could take to him again and introduce him to Mel she wants to explore her inner artist and he could help in ways I can't. I can support her and push. I am working on setting up a coupe of shows for her but he would know more on this front than me.
He was recognized in his own mind and his signs around Burford for many years. The Burford Township Sign, Keith Halls Transport numerous Randy Covey Men; Wear signs. He defined the Paris Curling Club with the numerous signs there over the years. He didn't want to stand out he did it because he loved it. He wanted to make a small mark on the world.
I know i got side tracked but maybe in some small way Mattis wants to help me bringing my dad back to me or is it is way of saying he is as proud of me as I am of my own Father. The mind of a 5 yr old is inquisitive and open.
Mattis goes from Superheros to Zombies to Computer Games with Sponge Bob in the blink of an eye. Then we add the Star Wars in to the mix and of course Six Million Dollar Man or the Dukes of Hazzard. He is proud to enjoy what I do. He loves Six Million Dollar Man.
I am not sure of the Sponge Bob but oh well...
The mind of the 5 year old is fun but can by a mystery
He asks the weirdest question but yet they are inquisitive at the same time. He wants to know if he can to heaven to meet Grandpa Duncan. He says to me daddy I can find him Heaven it is a small place in our house, I know what he looks like from the picture you have in the living room.
He then says I can help him find his way home so he can be with us. I see him in my dreams he will find us all I have to do this he tells me. I can tell him where we live so he can find us. He then says Peter Pan found his way home from Never-land so Grandpa can from heaven
I wish I could make him understand I wish it was that simple since it bothers me that my dad never got to meet my amazing wife or my 2 Kids. He never got to meet any of his Grand kids. I know he us up there and around us proud of what we have become proud of his grand kids. Proud of both my sister and I and what we have accomplished in life. I wish I could take to him again and introduce him to Mel she wants to explore her inner artist and he could help in ways I can't. I can support her and push. I am working on setting up a coupe of shows for her but he would know more on this front than me.
He was recognized in his own mind and his signs around Burford for many years. The Burford Township Sign, Keith Halls Transport numerous Randy Covey Men; Wear signs. He defined the Paris Curling Club with the numerous signs there over the years. He didn't want to stand out he did it because he loved it. He wanted to make a small mark on the world.
I know i got side tracked but maybe in some small way Mattis wants to help me bringing my dad back to me or is it is way of saying he is as proud of me as I am of my own Father. The mind of a 5 yr old is inquisitive and open.
Mattis goes from Superheros to Zombies to Computer Games with Sponge Bob in the blink of an eye. Then we add the Star Wars in to the mix and of course Six Million Dollar Man or the Dukes of Hazzard. He is proud to enjoy what I do. He loves Six Million Dollar Man.
I am not sure of the Sponge Bob but oh well...
The mind of the 5 year old is fun but can by a mystery
Thursday, May 16, 2013
The Why's have begun - another joy of Parent Hood
Have you ever noticed being a parent you need to answer alot of Why's some I can answer but many I have no answer for. I will start with the easy questions. -- wait most are not easy to explain
Why are plants leaves green - If my son was in grade 9 I could explain it, but how do explain to a 3yr old i have found the best answer is because that is the way God decided they should be or because that is the way they are.
Why do birds fly and why can"t I fly like a bird or Superman? -- how do answer this question to a 3 yr old -- Superman is from another planet so he has special powers. Birds hmmm. this is a tough one to answer how do I explain to a 3 yr old that birds have hollow bones allowing them to be filled with air in order to fly.
Why does Batman drive and Spiderman doesn't - another one that is hard to explain.
Why do the cars on TV float can we take the Escape in the water. -- How do explain that TV is not real to a 3 yr old that there is no way the Escape can become a submarine like the mini in the commercial.
Why does my shadow follow me. ok this one is easy to explain the sun casts a reflection of you on the ground that is attached to your feet and will go along with you. Yes classic Peter Pan when sun disappears no more shadow.
Why Why how do I answer these questions to a 3 yr old
Why do I have a ridge under my noise that goes to my lip -- how do i answer this one
Why does mum always say reach when she is not on the cell phone.
Why do fishes live in water why can't I take them out
Why does Nana's cat Smurf say Meow.
Oh the simple childhood mind how do I explain simple things in a way he will understand.
The whys's we take for granted the why's we have learned to live with as we grow older and wiser.
Oh the fresh mind that tests us parents and makes us wonder.
Why are plants leaves green - If my son was in grade 9 I could explain it, but how do explain to a 3yr old i have found the best answer is because that is the way God decided they should be or because that is the way they are.
Why do birds fly and why can"t I fly like a bird or Superman? -- how do answer this question to a 3 yr old -- Superman is from another planet so he has special powers. Birds hmmm. this is a tough one to answer how do I explain to a 3 yr old that birds have hollow bones allowing them to be filled with air in order to fly.
Why does Batman drive and Spiderman doesn't - another one that is hard to explain.
Why do the cars on TV float can we take the Escape in the water. -- How do explain that TV is not real to a 3 yr old that there is no way the Escape can become a submarine like the mini in the commercial.
Why does my shadow follow me. ok this one is easy to explain the sun casts a reflection of you on the ground that is attached to your feet and will go along with you. Yes classic Peter Pan when sun disappears no more shadow.
Why Why how do I answer these questions to a 3 yr old
Why do I have a ridge under my noise that goes to my lip -- how do i answer this one
Why does mum always say reach when she is not on the cell phone.
Why do fishes live in water why can't I take them out
Why does Nana's cat Smurf say Meow.
Oh the simple childhood mind how do I explain simple things in a way he will understand.
The whys's we take for granted the why's we have learned to live with as we grow older and wiser.
Oh the fresh mind that tests us parents and makes us wonder.
Monday, October 1, 2012
Big Bang Theory ... The inner geek part 2
Since my first article had such an impact on the world I decided to write part 2 but where to start is the question a lot has changed since then. Big Bang Theory has advanced to new levels in the past 3 years as well as my own life.
My Little guy is almost 3 and I see characteristics of Sheldon even in him he has own spot on the couch. It is not the perfect wind to air ratio to positioning in the room. My little dude is the positioning of the particular angle to the TV so he can watch his favourite TV shows or movie's.
I have began to wonder as I watch my little guy grow if Sheldon is the extreme in us all. Is he what could happen to us all if things went to the extreme. Then there is Raj the extreme on the dating scale where he needs a drink before he can even say hi to a girl. Then there is Amy who I have yet to figure out she is the extreme on one hand and then on the other she is normal, or is she.
There is Penny and Bernadette the perfect yet not so perfect companion for their boyfriends. You then have the extreme Mother of Howard, who we can all see pieces of our own mother in caring and wanting to help but not to the extreme like her.
Back to the parallels I have been seen in life since the last 1.
People have the ability to be intelligent yet in the same breath they can be as dumb as a stump. They do things that baffle common sense just like Sheldon, Raj, Leonard and the rest.
I saw a guy the other week that was the epitome of this he was riding a moped in shorts and sandals with a Third Reich style military helmet. He looked so out of place it was a laugh. Then there was the driver that missed the Tim Horton's drive through and ended up in the fence behind a tow truck.
I know the inner geek seems to be in us all even we think not it hides somewhere in us all.
I remember Ogre from revenge of the nerds who changed is ways after getting stuck on the island with the nerds and felt comfortable with them as they accepted him the way he was even though he teased them in the past.
If one can change can we all change and become a geek to some extent. If our high-school self was to look at most of us now. I am sure they would think we are geeks. With the technology around us the computer the cell phone that is attached to our every being. The little piece of technology that we cannot live without.
Just remember to some extent the characters of Big Bang make us not only laugh at them but help us to laugh at ourselves.
My Little guy is almost 3 and I see characteristics of Sheldon even in him he has own spot on the couch. It is not the perfect wind to air ratio to positioning in the room. My little dude is the positioning of the particular angle to the TV so he can watch his favourite TV shows or movie's.
I have began to wonder as I watch my little guy grow if Sheldon is the extreme in us all. Is he what could happen to us all if things went to the extreme. Then there is Raj the extreme on the dating scale where he needs a drink before he can even say hi to a girl. Then there is Amy who I have yet to figure out she is the extreme on one hand and then on the other she is normal, or is she.
There is Penny and Bernadette the perfect yet not so perfect companion for their boyfriends. You then have the extreme Mother of Howard, who we can all see pieces of our own mother in caring and wanting to help but not to the extreme like her.
Back to the parallels I have been seen in life since the last 1.
People have the ability to be intelligent yet in the same breath they can be as dumb as a stump. They do things that baffle common sense just like Sheldon, Raj, Leonard and the rest.
I saw a guy the other week that was the epitome of this he was riding a moped in shorts and sandals with a Third Reich style military helmet. He looked so out of place it was a laugh. Then there was the driver that missed the Tim Horton's drive through and ended up in the fence behind a tow truck.
I know the inner geek seems to be in us all even we think not it hides somewhere in us all.
I remember Ogre from revenge of the nerds who changed is ways after getting stuck on the island with the nerds and felt comfortable with them as they accepted him the way he was even though he teased them in the past.
If one can change can we all change and become a geek to some extent. If our high-school self was to look at most of us now. I am sure they would think we are geeks. With the technology around us the computer the cell phone that is attached to our every being. The little piece of technology that we cannot live without.
Just remember to some extent the characters of Big Bang make us not only laugh at them but help us to laugh at ourselves.
Tuesday, July 3, 2012
Quiet around the House
The little guy is off camping and Melanie is in Haliburton at the school of Art taking a course.
No don't worry he is not camping by himself yet at 2 and 1/2 but is camping with Mel's parents at Turkey Point.
I am not sure what to do with no little buddy following me around the house wanting me to play cars or Star Wars or Lego's with him. I have lost the best shadow that anyone could have I know the shadow will be back. The little shadow that has to water the flowers with you and be right there when you are washing the car or vacuuming the house.
I have a few things I want to do so I will try and get them done over the course of this week and the next 3 weeks as they will be back for the weekend and then off to Quebec City for 2 weeks.
I want to run a few Network lines and clean the garage a little three are items in there I can toss
Anyone want old computer equipment it is looking for another home. It will make an excellent door stop or even a great night light for those dark corners of the basement. No real use other than that. I think I will just taking it to a recycling center unless someone wants to claim it.
I am also going to try and mount a few shelves for our entertainment system on the wall creating a modern looking system will look at the cost and determine if it is cheaper to do that or to just buy nicer entertainment unit for the space.
I also need to figure out how I am going to mount the surround speakers but the problem is going to be the wires that need to be run.
Of course this all depends on other variables such as work as we are busy right now so it might be a few long nights setting up systems.
I also want to try and bring my model railroad in from Mums just not sure where I will put it in the basement yet I need to take it part to move it so that will be a fun task as well. I am hoping I can incorporate some if it back in not sure what the new layout will look like but it will a project for me and my little buddy.
Monday, July 4, 2011
Stupidity at its best .. Darwin award coming soon
I saw today pure idiocy. We were near Val-Cartier military base in Quebec.
A young guy on his motorcycle with his girlfriend on back pulled in between two cars at a stop light on the road. He was talking to the other that wasn't the idiotic move that comes next.
Once the light turned green he guns it racing in between the 2 vehicles a car and a truck. As he gets past at 30 k or so pulling away faster he pops a wheeley still accelerating up to at least 80 km/h for at least 300 M.
Next Darwin award will be awarded to this young man soon if he keeps it up.
How would he have lived with himself if he lost control or the girl fell off is what I wonder as I am writing this. Some people just don't think that is for sure.
I just pray my son doesn't do anything like that because I don't, know what I would do
Stephen Duncan
Sent wirelessly from my BlackBerry device on the Bell network.
Envoyé sans fil par mon terminal mobile BlackBerry sur le réseau de Bell.
A young guy on his motorcycle with his girlfriend on back pulled in between two cars at a stop light on the road. He was talking to the other that wasn't the idiotic move that comes next.
Once the light turned green he guns it racing in between the 2 vehicles a car and a truck. As he gets past at 30 k or so pulling away faster he pops a wheeley still accelerating up to at least 80 km/h for at least 300 M.
Next Darwin award will be awarded to this young man soon if he keeps it up.
How would he have lived with himself if he lost control or the girl fell off is what I wonder as I am writing this. Some people just don't think that is for sure.
I just pray my son doesn't do anything like that because I don't, know what I would do
Stephen Duncan
Sent wirelessly from my BlackBerry device on the Bell network.
Envoyé sans fil par mon terminal mobile BlackBerry sur le réseau de Bell.
Wednesday, February 2, 2011
Doh
It is amazing the world we live in at times when everything is judged by the dollar and how much can we make. We forget the most important thing in life health and family.
We work to live and spend more time stressing about work and life then we do enjoying life.
We let others control our lives not ourselves. We are controlled by work the media the church whatever is around us.
I sometimes wonder what is the point to it all there has to be a better way.
We work to live and spend more time stressing about work and life then we do enjoying life.
We let others control our lives not ourselves. We are controlled by work the media the church whatever is around us.
I sometimes wonder what is the point to it all there has to be a better way.
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
One thing that I always wonder about
The more I see in life the more I wonder how certain people can actually function on a day to basis.
Where I am working I see this in one particular user. He has no clue and you tell him something and 10 minutes later he has forgotten what you tell him. If I walk by his desk he always has an issue with his computer. He will call me over and say I can't do this in this program I did it yesterday but there is no way he did since viewer programs for the most part don't let you edit things. They generally let you print and look at it on the screen.
I see this in my personal life as well as I am sure we all do and you just wonder. How is he or she able to walk upright.
They can't do to things together and if they do it takes so much concentration they screw it up or loose complete focus
Where I am working I see this in one particular user. He has no clue and you tell him something and 10 minutes later he has forgotten what you tell him. If I walk by his desk he always has an issue with his computer. He will call me over and say I can't do this in this program I did it yesterday but there is no way he did since viewer programs for the most part don't let you edit things. They generally let you print and look at it on the screen.
I see this in my personal life as well as I am sure we all do and you just wonder. How is he or she able to walk upright.
They can't do to things together and if they do it takes so much concentration they screw it up or loose complete focus
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